Every good relationship has it's ups and downs... the more you care for someone, the more intense and passionate a fight will be. However there should be rules... clear rules for fighting with your boyfriend.
I had a huge misunderstanding over something of high importance to me with Greggy and I was really really mad at him. This one was big and he knew he had screwed up so he kept on apologizing and wanting to talk to me about it when all I wanted was to be left alone and be angry. I needed to calm down and he was clearly not helping with his continuous attempts of getting to talk. Be it twitter DMs, skype, iphone messages or email.
BTW, I would like to make clear that only this time he screwed up. Usually it is me who does something stupid, But he can't stay mad at me for long... because... let's face it... I'm adorable ;)
Anyways... I was mad... really mad and I was trying to talk to someone else on skype while he kept on calling and it was getting hard to ignore him and I was so mad that I was afraid if I had taken his call I would have said really bad stuff that I would regret later.
So... eventually he stopped... for a whole 10 minutes... then he tried a new strategy... HE PLAYED DIRTY.
Out of the blue he sent me a link... I could see it was a youtube link... and my curiosity got the best of me and I had to click it. And what do I see?
(btw I renamed his skype to Honeybunny... I love him)
Honeybunny: I am trying...
Honeybunny: you say its not enough...
Honeybunny: I love you
Honeybunny: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0put0_a--Ng
YES... ADELE... He posted a link to ADELE. "Make You Feel My Love"
what a cheap shot... he knows I am a big sucker for Adele.
How can I stay mad at him when he does that? So I replied:
Nic: let me be mad at you
Nic: i need to let the anger out
Honeybunny: why waste a minute of happiness with maddnes...its pointless
Honeybunny: let it out on me
Honeybunny: yell it out
Honeybunny: scream at me
Honeybunny: bite me
Honeybunny: just hug me in the end
Honeybunny: and tell me everything is gonna be alright
So... since I was still talking to my friend and trying not to think about the fight, I told him to stop writing me.
Nic: stop writing
And then,.ladies and gentlemen... here the game got really dirty... it was HUGE....
He left for 7 minutes then sent me a recorded memo on iMessage
Honeybunny: i imessaged you
Honeybunny: i sent you a memo since I can't write
OMG HOW ADORABLE IS THAT?
SERIOUSLY?
OMG!!!
It took me a lot of self convincing to not give in and stay angry to make my point...
The next day we talked and after spending some time away from him with my friends Alex and Domi and getting drunk.... oh wait... need to tell you guys about that.
yeah... the whole afternoon Domi was actually giving me advice on how to make things work with Greggy... and since I was drunk and Alex's mom took my car keys, it was Domi who drove me when Greggy asked me to come home and talk to him.
When I arrived home, the alcohol I had consumed earlier was doing it's work and I was very tired.
I managed to log in on skype while being in bed and I only talked to him in a very sleepy and soft voice.
"I love you Greggy. All is fine. I love you. Mwah... goodnight"
He was adorable. He IS adorable. I hate when we fight. I feel so bad being forced to be a dick to him. Just to make my point that my feelings are hurt. There must be a better way... I'm working on it. That's how relationships (and we as human beings) grow, right?